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Ubufanasini kunye nokukhululwa kuyo
Yintoni ebangela ubufanasini, izinto zabo ezisisiseko kwaye ngaba umntu unokubususa? Kutheni kusisono kunye nenkanuko efana nokubawa, ubukrakra kunye nezinye izimo zengqondo ezingalunganga?
Kule migca ilandelayo, siza kujonga ubufanasini kunye nemvelaphi yayo. Injongo kukucinga ngokukhethekileyo ngemvelaphi yobufanasini nokuba umntu unokukhululwa kusini na kubo, kwanangoko iBhayibhile ikutshoyo ngalo mbandela. Abaninzi banokungavumelani, kodwa bafanele bafunde isicatshulwa sonke.
IMVELAPHI IMIBANDELA YOBUFANASINI. Xa ukhangela isizathu sobufanasini, enye yeengxoxo ezibaluleke kakhulu kukuba ubufanasini buzalwa kwaye akukho nto inokwenziwa ngayo. Kuye kwacaciswa ukuba abanye bazalwa bengamafanasini yaye kufuneka nje bazamkele ukuba bangoobani. Noko ke, xa ufundisisa ngobufanasini, akukhange kufumaneke nesizathu esinye sofuzo. Akukho mfuza okanye enye into efunyenweyo enokubangela ubufanasini. Iziphumo ezicacileyo kulo mmandla azikho. Endaweni yoko, izinto ezithile ezingasemva kunye neempawu ezizodwa, ezidweliswe ngezantsi, zibonakala zibaluleke kakhulu. Ezi zinto ziye zafunyanwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwizifundo ezininzi kunye nodliwano-ndlebe oluye lwenziwa. Uninzi lwazo lunxulumene nobudlelwane. Siza kuzijonga ngokulandelayo:
UBUDODA BAMADODA
Ukwaliwa ngutata womntu . Mhlawumbi eyona nto iqhelekileyo ebangela ubufanasini emadodeni kukungabikho komzekelo katata ofudumeleyo nonothando. Ukuba uyise kabani uye wavutha ngumsindo, akakhathali yaye enobutshaba, oku kusenokuphumela ekubeni inkwenkwe okanye indoda iqalise ukufuna ukuthandwa ngamadoda, kuba ingazange iyifumane kuyise. Ngaloo ndlela, ubungqingili bubungqingili bokulangazelela ubaba (kubasetyhini, ngokulandelanayo, umama) kumadoda. Ukuba indoda ibinomzekelo omhle katata, ngokuyinxenye iya kuthintela ukukhula kobufanasini. UJerry Arterburn, owayesakuba lifanasini, uthetha ngale nto:
Inkxaso eyongezelelweyo kunye nokwamkelwa okunikwa umntwana kunokwanela ngolo hlobo. Amafanasini amaninzi aye axelela ukuba eneneni ubukhulu becala ayenqwenela ukwamkelwa ngamadoda. Ukuba ooyise babesitshintshile isimo sabo sengqondo baza banikela ingqalelo engakumbi koonyana babo, bonke ubomi babo ngebabehambe ngendlela eyakhayo. (1)
Amanye amadoda. Eyona nto iphantse ibaluleke njengokungafunwa kukayise ikwakukwaliwa nangamanye amadoda abalulekileyo, njengabantakwabo nabantwana ofunda nabo. Oku kugatywa kunokuyihlutha inkwenkwe okanye indoda imodeli eyimfuneko yokuchongwa ngesini sayo ize imhlukanise nayo. Amadoda amaninzi aye akhukuliswa kubudlelwane obufanasini ngenxa yokuba efumene imvume kunye nomanyano lwabahlobo abangamadoda awayengazange abe nabo ngaphambili. UJerry Arterburn uxelele indlela oku kumchaphazele ngayo kakhulu:
Andizange nditshintshe ngobusuku nje obugay. Utshintsho lwenzeka ngokuthe ngcembe kangangokuba andizange ndiluphawule kwangoko. Ekuqaleni, ndandicinga ukuba ndizenzela ubuhlobo naba bantu batsha ndibaziyo. Ndabathanda abahlobo abatsha. Babebonakala beyiqonda into endandiyihambile ebuntwaneni bam. (…) Ndandifuna ukwazi ukuba ubufanasini yayiyeyona nto yayibangela ndizive ngale ndlela ndandiziva ngayo. Ndayeka ukuthandana namantombazana ndaza ndaqalisa ukuchitha ixesha lam nesibini esithandana nesini esifanayo endandisazi saseyunivesithi. Ndangena ngokugqibeleleyo kweli qela, kwaye abafana bandithatha phantsi kwamaphiko abo njengabazalwana. Ndaba nomanyano olunjalo, endandingazange ndiluve naxa ndikunye nabazalwana bam. Imvakalelo yokwamkelwa yayingummangaliso. Yandilinga ngakumbi kwihlabathi lobufanasini. (2)
U-Andrew Comiskey ukwaxelele indlela awaqala ngayo ukuziva enqwenela ubufanasini kuba wayekhe wahlukaniswa nabahlobo bakhe abangabafana abakwiminyaka efanayo. Esi yayisesinye sezizathu eziphambili zokulangazelela kwakhe ubufanasini:
Kwinxalenye enkulu yokukhula kwam kwangaphambili ngokwesondo, ukwahlukaniswa nobudoda bam kunokubonwa. Ndaziva ndingonelanga kwaye ndingayifanelanga indima yendoda. Ubukhulu becala kwakungenxa yobudenge beemvakalelo endandizigcina kutata, nto leyo eyayibangelwa kukulindela kwam nokungaqondi kwam njengoko kwakunjalo kwiintsilelo zikabawo. Ukwahlukaniswa notata kwangqinwa kukwaliwa ngokuqhubekayo kwabahlobo bam abangamakhwenkwe okwaqala sele kumabanga aphantsi kwaye kwaqhubeka nokufikisa. Ngenxa yokuba ndandizahlukanisile notata nabahlobo bam abangabafana, ndaqalisa ukuba nomnqweno onamandla wobufanasini. Ndandingawuqondi umoya wokwenzakala nokugweba endandinawo ngamadoda. Nam ndandingayiqondi indlela ekwakunzima ngayo ukujongana nobudoda bam. (3)
Impembelelo kamama. Umama usenokuba negalelo ekuveleni kobufanasini. Ukuba uyabahlula abantwana kuyise, abophe unyana ngokusondele kakhulu kuye kunokuba abe liqabane lakhe, aze amthabathe unyana wakhe njengomhlobo wakhe, oko kunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu. Ukuthantamisa kukamama kunokuyikhokelela ekubeni inkwenkwe ilahlekane ngokwasengqondweni, kwaye xa inkwenkwe ibekwe kwindima yokuba umntu onokuzityand’ igila kuye, kuba nzima kuyo ukukhupha ubuni bayo kubuntu bukanina. Usenokulandela umzekelo kanina endaweni kayise. ULeanne Payne uchaze oku:
Ukuba umntwana akanalo uyise oqinileyo noxhasayo, umama omkhusela ngokugqithiseleyo ogcina unyana wakhe esondelelene ngendlela eyingozi unokubangela ukuba unyana wakhe abe nobunzima ekwahluleni ubuntu bakhe ngokwesini kunina, yaye nomama unokukhuthaza indlela yokuziphatha yobufanasini kuye. unyana. (4)
Imodeli yesibini enokwenzeka ngumama olawulayo nolawulayo ogxeka umyeni wakhe phambi kwabantwana. Umama unokuba ndlongondlongo nendelelo kumyeni wakhe, nto leyo ewonakalisa kakhulu umfanekiso wonyana kayise. Isenokubangela ukuba unyana abe nobunzima kamva ekuthembeni kwabasetyhini, kuba unina umnike imodeli elawulayo neyalelayo. Olu hlobo lwemvelaphi luchazwe nguAndrew Comiskey:
Amaxesha ngamaxesha ndiye ndabona indlela aba bantu bangakwazi ngayo ukunxulumana nabantu besini esingafaniyo kuba bevakalelwa kukuba umzali wesini esahlukileyo waxhaphaza omnye umzali. Enye indoda eyayifuna uncedo yayingabathembi tu abantu basetyhini kuba unina wayeziphethe ngendlela engqongqo kumyeni wakhe owayeziphethe kakubi emthuka. (5)
Isimo sengqondo esibi sabazali malunga nesondo. Enye into ebangela ubufanasini isenokuba sisimo sengqondo esibi sabazali ngokuphathelele isini. Ngokomzekelo, abazali basenokumohlwaya ngokungekho ngqiqweni umntwana wabo ngokubonisa umzimba wakhe ngoxa edlala nabanye abantwana. Oku kunokubangela ukuba kamva ukwale ukuziphatha okubi ngokwesini ngokupheleleyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukusabela kakubi ngokungekho ngqiqweni kwabazali kunokubangela umonakalo. Ityala lisenokuba ngutata ohlekisa ngomdla wonyana wakhe ovuswayo kumantombazana, apho unyana unokungaqondi njengento engafanelekanga, emdaka, nengaqhelekanga (kusenokubakho nezinye izinto ezinempembelelo emva koku). Kamva unyana usenokubhenela kwisini sakhe ukuze amkeleke ngokwesini. UDavid noDon Wilkerson bakuchaze oku kwincwadi yabo ethi The Untapped Generation:
Abantwana abasoloko belunyukiswa ngengozi yobudlelwane bokwabelana ngesondo baqala ukubacingela njengento ekruqulayo kwaye emdaka. Umntwana utolika iimvakalelo zakhe zesini zendalo ngexesha lokufikisa njengento engaqhelekanga kwaye unokuziva enetyala ngenxa yazo. Mhlawumbi umntwana uye wafundiswa ukuba oyike abantu besini esahlukileyo. Abazali abaneengxaki zesini ngokufuthi besazi okanye bengazi babonakalisa ezi mvakalelo kubantwana babo. Abazali abakhulisa abantwana babo benesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo malunga neentlobano zesini akufuneki boyike ukuba umntwana wabo uza kuba lifanasini; kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntwana akhule ngokuqhelekileyo. Ikhaya elizaliswe yisimo sengqondo esinempilo malunga nokuziphatha ngokwesondo kufuneka lizaliswe ngeempawu apho umntwana anokuthi ngokwemvelo agqibe ukuba ubulili obungafaniyo abukho nje obuqhelekileyo kwaye bulungile, kodwa bunomvuzo kwaye bukholisa. Abazali abalungelelene ngokwesondo ngokwethuku bayayazi indlela yokukhuthaza ubudoda kumakhwenkwe kunye nobufazi kumantombazana. (…)
Iimfuno ezingalunganga. Enye into ebangela ubufanasini inokuba abazali baphoxekile ngokufumana inkwenkwe endaweni yentombazana, kwaye bezama ukunyanzela umntwana wabo ukuba enze indima yesini esahlukileyo, umzekelo ngokunxibisa inkwenkwe kwiimpahla zentombazana. ULeanne Payne unika umzekelo omhle woku:
U-Loren, indoda entle, ebukekayo eneminyaka engamashumi amane ubudala, wayethandane ngokuphandle kwasebutsheni bakhe. Oku kubangele iingxabano ezinkulu phakathi kwakhe noyise, kunye neengxaki kobunye ubudlelwane bakhe. Akazange azamkele, kodwa wakhusela ukuziphatha kwakhe ngentshiseko xa wayexambulisana noyise. Wayeqonda ukuba ubufanasini bakhe bubandakanya inzondo kunye nemvukelo kuyise, kodwa akazange akwazi ukujongana nezi. Le ndoda yayimfumene ngenene uKrestu kunye nosindiso, kodwa yayisoloko iphulukene nomlo wayo wobufanasini, de uThixo wazisa iinkumbulo zayo zokuqala. Oku kwenzeka xa sasicela iNkosi ukuba ifumane loo nkumbulo eyayiza kutyhila unobangela wengxaki. Ebudeni balo mthandazo, wakhumbula isiganeko esenzeka xa wayesandul’ ukuzalwa. Wabona uyise engena kwigumbi awayezalelwe kulo. Ukuphoxeka kwakhawuleza kwazalisa igumbi kwaza kwasindwa kakhulu kuye. Uyise wamjonga ngokucaphuka waza wathi, "Mfana kwakhona!" Emva koko wajika wabaleka wemka egumbini.U-Loren wayengunyana wabo wesithathu, babenethemba lokufumana intombazana.U-Loren "wayibona" yonke le nto kwaye waphinda wadibana nayo-kwaye ngeli xesha, wayiqonda zombini ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo.Oku kugatywa kucacisile. Kutheni uLoren kamva wazama ukuba yintombazana, ukumangaliswa okukhulu kwentsapho. Wayefuna ukudlala noonodoli kunye namantombazana, kungekhona namakhwenkwe. Wazama ngokungazi ukuba yintombazana uyise awayeyilindele. (6)
Ukuphathwa gadalala ngumntu wesini esifanayo nako kunokubangela isimilo sobufanasini. UJerry Arterburn ubalisa ngendlela awayelixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, eyayiyenye yezinto ezamkhokelela kwicala elingalunganga. Ukwachaza nokuba bangaphi abahlobo bakhe abangamafanasini abanemvelaphi efanayo. Esinye isicatshulwa esivela kwincwadi yomvangeli waseArgentina uCarlos Annacondia uthetha ngalo mbandela mnye:
Umphumo waloo ngokuhlwa waba kukuba iimvakalelo zam zaphazamiseka. Ndandikhe ndaxhatshazwa ngokwesini. Kwimeko yam, eso yayisisiqalo ngokoqobo sesiphelo. (…) Umzabalazo wam owathatha iminyaka engamashumi amathathu ufana nowabanye abantu abaninzi abathandana nabo. Ndiye ndadibana nabantu abaliqela abafana nam, abaye bawela kubufanasini ngenxa yokuba amakhwenkwe amadala okanye amadoda amadala aye abaxhaphaza ngokwesini. Okumangalisayo kukuba, amava am okuqala andinika ingqalelo yamadoda endandiyilangazelela. Kwangaxeshanye, yaqhekeza ukhuseleko lwam olusisiseko nokuzithemba kwam. (7)
Abantu abaninzi athe uThixo wabakhulula kubufanasini baye basixelela ukuba baye badlwengulwa okanye baxhatshazwa ngokwesini kwasebuntwaneni. Ngokufuthi amazwi anjengathi “Ungudade wethu,” athethwa ngabazali, aze ngaloo ndlela abe buhlungu umntwana, anokuyidimaza inkwenkwana. Kodwa xa uYesu engena ebomini babo, umoya ongendawo kufuneka umke kwaye bakhululwe. Ndingakuqinisekisa ukuba alukho olunye unyango olufunekayo. (8)
UBUFANASINI BAMAFAZI . Ngoxa imvelaphi yobufanasini bamadoda idla ngokuba nolwalamano olubi kootata, amabhinqa aneengxaki ngolwalamano lwawo nomama. Sesona sizathu sixhaphakileyo sobufanasini. U-Leanne Payne uye waqaphela ukuba esi sesona sizathu siqhelekileyo sobufanasini:
Ngoku ndandiqonda ukuba ukungabinanto ngokweemvakalelo okwabangela ukuba uLisa abe novelwano ngakumbi kwaye kwabangela ukuba akhukuliseke ngokulula kubudlelwane nomfundisi-ntsapho wakhe wabasetyhini. Ukuziphatha kweLesbian (ngaphandle kokuba ngumbuzo wobuntu obune-hysterical) njenge-neurosis yesondo ayinzima njengokuziphatha kwabantu abathandana besini esifanayo kumadoda. Ngokwam amava, ngokuqhelekileyo kubangelwa isidingo sokukhwela ethangeni likamama elingazange lizaliseke kwaphela okanye linganelanga ebuntwaneni. (9)
U-Erik Ewalds wenze into efanayo malunga nobufanasini obufanayo. Ubhala kwincwadi yakhe ( Tahdotko tulla terveeksi , p. 94):
Xa sinyanga amadoda angamafanasini, ndiye ndaphawula ukuba esinye isizathu esibangela ukuba atyekele kukuba ayengenaye utata awayenokuzalana naye esengabantwana. Abazange bafumane naluphi na uncedo ekufumaneni isini sabo okanye i-ego eyayiza kubakhulula. Kudala ndizama ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni ebangela ubufanasini bamabhinqa. Esinye isizathu kukuba umama akazange abe ngumzekelo omhle. Emva koko intombazana iye yaphuma ukuya kukhuphisana namadoda. Ngoko ke uzama ukuzithengela isidima ngokukhuphisana namadoda. Anditsho ukuba esi sesona sizathu sobufanasini kwabasetyhini esichaphazela bonke abantu ababhinqileyo kodwa kukho iimeko ezinjalo, amabhinqa endikhe ndathetha nawo ndafumana inyhweba yokuncedisa ekuzifumaneni.
• Esinye isizathu sobufanasini babasetyhini kukoyika kunye nentiyo yomfazi kuyise namanye amadoda, kuba baye baziphatha ngokungenaluthando kuye. Kwakhona, ukuba uye wafumana i-Sexual Harassment evela emadodeni, inokwandisa uloyiko kunye nentiyo yakhe emadodeni. Ngokulangazelela kwakhe uthando, usenokubhenela kwilungu lesini sakhe.
• Ukuba abazali bebenqwenelela inkwenkwe endaweni yentombazana baze ngokungaqondi bazame ukunyanzela intombazana ukuba ibe yinkwenkwe, ngunobangela lowo. Le yimvelaphi eqhelekileyo kubufanasini bendoda ngokunjalo.
UKUSABELA KWIIMEKO . Imvelaphi yokuzalwa kobufanasini idla ngokuba yimiba engathandekiyo, ekhankanywe ngasentla. Noko ke, kufanele kutshiwo ukuba nangona abantu abaninzi beneemeko ezifanayo, oku akuzange kubenze babe ngamafanasini. Baye bakwazi ukubandezeleka ngenxa yezinto ezifanayo ukanti abazange bakhukuliseke kubomi obufanayo. Indlela esisabela ngayo kwiimeko zethu ibaluleke kakhulu. Umzekelo omhle ngowokuba nangona oonongogo nezaphuli-mthetho ngokuqhelekileyo besoloko bephuma kwiindidi ezithile zamakhaya, abantu abaninzi abasuka kwiimeko ezifanayo abakhange baphele bengoonongogo okanye izaphuli-mthetho. Ibonisa ukuba wonke umntu unokuphembelela ukhetho lwakhe. UAlan Medinger, naye owayesakuba lifanasini, ubalisa ngakumbi ngalo mbandela. Ukhankanya ukuba yayingezimeko ngokwazo ezibangele ubufanasini bakhe, kodwa yindlela awasabela ngayo kwiimeko. Ibali lakhe liyinyani ngokuqinisekileyo kwabanye abantu abaninzi abaqhuba ubufanasini ngoku:
Unokufumana kwixa lam elidlulileyo phantse zonke ezo meko ngokuqhelekileyo ekucingelwa ukuba zikhokelela kubufanasini: Ndandingengomntwana ofunwayo, abazali bam babenethemba lokuba nentombi, ndinomkhuluwa owayehlangabezana ngcono noko kulindelwe ngubawo, kunye nomntwana ofunwayo. utata owayeneengxaki ezinkulu kubomi bakhe beemvakalelo. Wayengakwazi ukulawula ubomi bakhe, singasathethi ke ngokuba nguyise wokwenene koonyana bakhe. Ndiyazi ukuba ezi meko azizange zibangele ubufanasini bam. Kunoko, indlela endasabela ngayo kwezi zinto yandikhokelela kweli cala. (10)
INGABA UTSHINTSHO LUKHONA? Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe, ubufanasini ngokufuthi buye bathetheleleka ngengcamango yokuba yinto yokuzalwa yaye inguqulelo ayinakwenzeka. Kwanohlobo olungalunganga lwenceba luye lwaboniswa kwaye lwathi, "Wazalwa ngolu hlobo; kufuneka nje wamkele isabelo sakho." Le yingcamango eqhelekileyo ephakanyiswa ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kodwa njengoko siphawulile ngaphambili, ubufanasini abuzalwa, kodwa ngumbandela weemeko nokhetho lukabani. Ukuba belilifa, ngokomzekelo, phakathi kwabantwana abathathu, wonke umntu, ingenguye nje omnye, ebeya kuba lifanasini. Nangona kunjalo, amaxesha amaninzi oku akwenzeki, kwaye umcimbi unokulinganiselwa kumntakwenu omnye kuphela. Ngokukwanjalo, ukuba yayililifa, abazali nootatomkhulu nootatomkhulu nabo bafanele batyekele ngendlela efanayo. Nangona kunjalo, abazange babe njalo. Ibonisa ukuba ubufanasini asingombandela welifa okanye wokuzalwa. Kuthekani ngokufumana utshintsho? Ngokuqinisekileyo kunokwenzeka, nangona amafanasini amaninzi esenokuthi akanakuze atshintshe okanye akanakutshintsha. Noko ke, uThixo, owadala indoda nenkazana, unokumphilisa umntu owaphukileyo, kuba oku kukwaphathelele oku. Unako ukuphilisa ukophuka komntu aze alungise konke oko kwaphukile ngaphakathi kwiminyaka edluleyo. Umntu kufuneka anikele ubomi bakhe kuThixo kuqala. Umzekelo omhle wendlela uThixo asebenza ngayo ubonwa kwaKor. 6. Kwesi sicatshulwa, kuchazwa indlela amafanasini angayi kubudla ilifa ubukumkani bukaThixo, kodwa wandula ke uPawulos wongezelela, “Yaye ninjalo ke inxenye yenu; Oku kubonisa ukuba abanye baba bantu babefudula bengamafanasini kodwa bengasekho. UPawulos wabhala:
Anazi na, ukuba abangemalungisa abayi kubudla ilifa ubukumkani bukaThixo? Musani ukulahlekiswa ; 10 namasela, namabawa, namanxila, nabatshabhisi, nabaphangi, abayi kubudla ilifa ubukumkani bukaThixo. 11 Naye ninjalo ke inxenye yenu ; kuloko nahlanjululwayo, kuloko nangcwaliswayo, kuloko nagwetyelwayo egameni leNkosi uYesu, nangoMoya kaThixo wethu.
U-Alan Medinger naye uxelele ngotshintsho lwakhe. Ukukhululwa kwakhe kwenzeka ngequbuliso, okungahlali kusenzeka kuye wonke umntu:
Ngosuku olulandelayo kunye neentsuku emva kwayo ndabona ukuba imimangaliso emininzi yenzekile. Iingcamango zobufanasini endandinazo mihla le kule minyaka ingama-25 idluleyo zaphela. Ndifumene uthando olunjalo ngakuWilla, kangangokuba andizange ndiyicinge nokuyicinga ukuba inokwenzeka. Kwaye eyona nto ibaluleke nangakumbi, uThixo wayengasenguye umgwebi okude kum, kodwa waba nguMsindisi wam. UYesu wayendithanda, nam ndandimthanda kakhulu. Ndandiqala ukuqonda ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ngokwenene ukuthanda nokuthandwa. (…) Kuba ukuphiliswa kobufanasini kwenzeka ngequbuliso, ndihlala ndibuzwa ukuba kugqibelele kangakanani na ukuphilisa. Ndingaphendula ndithi ixesha libubungqina bokunyaniseka kwalo nokuba umtshato osikelelekileyo usisiqhamo sawo. Kule minyaka ilishumi idluleyo, andizange ndikhe ndifumane isilingo sobufanasini. Ngesilingo ndithetha ukuba ngendicingisise nzulu okanye ndinqwenele ukulala namadoda. Nangona kunjalo, emva kokuphiliswa okusisiseko ndaphoswa ngandlel’ ithile ukuba nendoda endala, eyomeleleyo ebomini bam. Nalo ke ngoku nalo limkile, ndibagqala abantu njengabazalwana bam, ingengabo oobawo nabakhuseli. (11)
Makhe sijonge esinye isicatshulwa esihambelana nomxholo. Ibalisa ngomfazi othe waphila iminyaka engama-37 kwindima yendoda (Isihloko sokubhala sithi: iminyaka engama-37 endimeni yendoda: UThixo wabuyisela isazisi sam). Wayeziphethe njengendoda, enxiba njengendoda kwaye esebenzisa isiteketiso sendoda. Wayecinezela yonke into yobufazi kuye kwaye bambalwa kakhulu ababesazi ukuba ngenene wayengumfazi. Isizathu sokuziphatha kwakhe ubukhulu becala yayiziimeko zobuntwana kunye nobomi bakhe, obuyimvelaphi eqhelekileyo yamafanasini kunye nabakhubazekileyo ngokwesondo. Abazali bakhe babefuna inkwenkwe endaweni yentombazana, yaye wafumanisa ukuba wayebakholisa ngakumbi abazali bakhe kwindima yomfana. Nangona kunjalo, inkululeko kunye nokuchacha kwaqala xa wanikela ubomi bakhe kuThixo:
… - Ndisuka eNetherlands. Utata wayengumTaliyane yaye umama engumRomany waseNetherlands. Usapho lwam lwaluqhekeke kakhulu. Kwafuneka ndijamelane nehlabathi lolwaphulo-mthetho laseRotterdam elalisele ndiselula. Xa ndandineminyaka elishumi elinesine ubudala, ndagwetywa iminyaka emithathu enesiqingatha, uLa Serpe uthi. Ngenxa yeengxaki zasekhaya, le ntombazana yachitha iminyaka eliqela yobuntwana kunye noninakhulu eItali. Abazali bakhe babenethemba lokuba izibulo labo liya kuba yinkwenkwe. Le ntombazana yaqaphela kwasebuncinaneni ukuba iyabakholisa abazali bayo kwaye iqhuba ngcono ezitratweni iseyinkwenkwe. Iilokhwe, ubucwebe kunye ne-make-up yayingafanelanga yena. U-Luisa wacinezela zonke izinto zobufazi kuye kwaye walithatha njengegama lakhe lobudoda elithi Loid. Bambalwa ababesazi isini sakhe esifanelekileyo kuba wayecheba iinwele zakhe, esebenzisa iimpahla zamadoda yaye eziphatha njengamanye amadoda. (...) Waqala ngolu hlobo ke ukuguquka kukaLuisa ekubeni ngumthengisi weziyobisi ukuya ekubeni ngumvangeli. Ubufazi baqala ukulingana njengoko waqala ukuchacha kumanxeba akhe angaphakathi, apho amava okulahlwa kobuntwaneni bakhe ayemakhulu. Noko ke, kwathabatha iminyaka eliqela ngaphambi kokuba abe nobuganga bokuncama ubudoda bakhe ngokupheleleyo ukuze anyanyekelwe nguThixo. (...) UThixo waqinisekisa ukuba uyayazi indlela uLuisa aqhuba ngayo. Wathembisa ukuphilisa amanxeba entliziyo yakhe ukuba uLuisa unokubuyela kuYe. - Ngobo busuku, uMoya oyiNgcwele weza wandinyamekela. Ndaphiliswa ngokupheleleyo kumanxeba am angaphakathi nokuba sezandleni zakhe njengomntwana. Ndaguquka kuba ndandikhe ndahlala kwindima yendoda ukuya kutsho kwiminyaka engama-37. Kulapho ndaye ndanobuganga bokunikela ubudoda bam ngokupheleleyo kuThixo kwaye ndamkele ubufazi bam. Umfazi omde, omhle uqhawula iimvakalelo amaxesha amaninzi njengoko ekhumbula imihla yakudala. Uhambo alukhange lubelula kodwa namhlanje wonwabile. ULuisa uzele luxinezeleko oluvuyisayo njengoko elindele ukubona ukuba yintoni na uThixo amcwangcisele yona ngokulandelayo. Emva kokuchacha kwakhe, uLuisa wabuyela kumsebenzi wamatyotyombe phakathi kwezona zilusizi zaseFortaleza eBrazil. Ubonisa iifoto afota kuzo nowayesakuba ngumfundisi waseMacumba okanye ethandaza nomfazi okhalayo onamazantsi amazantsi ngenxa yesifo seswekile esinganyangwanga. - Intlupheko, izifo, ubugebenga kunye nobuhenyu yinyani yemihla ngemihla ematyotyombeni. Maxa wambi kwakufuneka ndibaleke nabahlobo bam kwimigulukudu exhobe ngeemela zehlathi. Kodwa umsebenzi wawufanelekile, uLuisa La Serpe uyavuya. (12) Ubudlelwane babantu bubalulekile ekunyangeni nasekutshintsheni, kumafanasini nakwabanye abantu. Abaninzi banamava okuchaswa kwangaphambili ngasemva, apho babengamkelwanga ngutata, umama, utitshala okanye abahlobo basesikolweni. (Inkqubo kanomathotholo ichaze indlela ama-50% amafanasini aselula aye aceba ukuzibulala, nto leyo ebonisa amava obomi anzima. Kwabanye, elo nani lalingaphantsi ngokuphindwe kaninzi.) Ngenxa yamava abo, kunzima ngabo ukuzamkela bona kunye neziqu zabo. -umfanekiso unegative. Banokuzithiya, bagxeke inkangeleko yabo kunye nobuntu babo, kodwa baphinde bakrokre kwabanye abantu. Ezi ziphumo eziqhelekileyo zamava okulahlwa kunye nokugatywa kwixesha elidlulileyo. Umntu unokuzikhulula njani kumava angathandekiyo exesha elidluleyo nasekuzijongeleni kakubi? Enye indlela sisenzo esingqalileyo sikaThixo kunye nokuchukumisa kwakhe: unokusichukumisa ngephanyazo ukuze siphilise kwintlungu yexesha elidluleyo; abasazikhathazi iingqondo zethu. Unokwenza ngemizuzu embalwa oko bekuya kufuna inkqubo yeminyaka. Enye indlela yokuphilisa kukuba nolwalamano oluhle nabanye. Xa umntu elindele ukwaliwa kodwa amkeleke, loo nto inokumnceda aphilise kwaye ahlakulele umfanekiso ongcono wesiqu sakhe. Oku kusebenza kubo bonke abantu, abo banemvelaphi yobufanasini kunye nabanye abantu. Makhe sijonge isicatshulwa apho owayesakuba lifanasini ethetha malunga nendlela ubudlelwane obuhle obumnceda ngayo ukuba azamkele:
Ndaqala inqanaba elitsha ebomini bam xa ndandiqiniseka ngakumbi nangakumbi njengekholwa eliselula ukuba uThixo angandikhulula kubufanasini bam yaye wayendibiza ukuba ndikhulule abanye egameni lakhe. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo koku yayizizikolo zam ezitshintshayo: Ndasuka kwiyunivesithi yam endala ndaya kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia eLos Angeles (UCLA). Ndafudukela kwindlu yamadoda angamaKristu, nto leyo eyayilucelomngeni nentsikelelo kum ngokulinganayo. Ndanyanzeleka ukuba ndijongane noloyiko lwam kunye nokucalula ngamadoda - ngakumbi amadoda agcina isini esahlukileyo. Ukungaqondi kwam kwakudala kwaphakama phezulu. La madoda amele izithethe kunye ne-orthodoxy, uhlobo lwesiqhelo olwandigatyayo kunye nendandivukela ngalo ngokwemvelo. (...) Ndafunda into enkulu kwaye engalindelekanga kunyaka wam wokuqala apho: onke la madoda ayendithanda. Ngaphandle kwayo yonke imiqondiso ebonisa imvelaphi yam yenkcubeko engaqhelekanga (iinwele ezinde, ulwimi olubukhali, uburharha obungendawo), bakhupha okuhle kum kwaye bandisikelela ngokwenene. Uthando lwabo lwaluba nzima ngamanye amaxesha. Omnye wabo wakha wandixelela ukuba ndiguquke kwikratshi kunye nesimo sengqondo sobu-elitist (indlela yam yesono yokuzikhusela ekwaliwe). Kodwa inkoliso yabazalwana bam yabonisa uthando lwayo ngokundithandazela nokundikhuthaza ukuba ndikhule eNkosini. Ndothuswa kukudibana namadoda anjalo awayekwazi ukuthanda amanye amadoda ngokukhululekileyo, nangokuthantamisa, ngaphandle kweengxoxo ezivuselela inkanuko. Isimo sam sengqondo ngakubo ngamanye amaxesha sasigcinwe kodwa ndandivuya ngesiqinisekiso esicacileyo sobudoda ababendinika sona. Xa ndiziva ndikhuselekile ngokwaneleyo, ndavula ukuxelela omnye wabafana endlwini malunga nam, ndibeka emngciphekweni wokwaliwa, nto leyo eyandivumela ukuba ndibe namava okuphilisa kwangaphakathi endingazange ndibe nawo ngaphambili. Ndandingomnye wabo kwaye ndandiyithanda. Ndaqonda ukuba ekugqibeleni ndakwazi ukunandipha uthando lokwenene nabantu besini esifanayo ngendlela uThixo afuna ngayo. UYesu wandomeleza ngelaxesha ndandihlala nala madoda. Wandinceda ngokundivumela ukuba ndoyame ngaye kwaye ndisebenzise izipho andinike zona. Okwesihlandlo sokuqala ebomini bam, abanye bandixelela ukuba ndisenokuba neziphiwo njengesithethi nomcebisi. Ndaqalisa ukuzibona ndisebenza ngamandla eBukumkanini bukaThixo, endaweni yokuba lifanasini “elichachayo”. Ndandibunandipha ubomi kwaye ndaziva ndixabisekile ngenxa yeengcambu zam zothando Lwakhe kunye nenjongo Yakhe. Ndaziva ndiphila icebo likaThixo ngokuzeleyo, ndifuna uThixo kwaye ndivuyela ukhathalelo lwakhe. Ukunyamekela kwakhe kwakucacile kwaye kuqhubekayo ebudeni beenyanga ezilishumi elinesibhozo okanye ngaphezulu endazichitha endlwini. (13)
"NINALO MTENDO". Xa sijonga ukuba ubufanasini buzelwe, abantu abaninzi basenokuphikisa ngelithi banolu tyekelo yaye akukho nto banokuyenza ngalo (sakhe saphawula ukuba ubufanasini abuzalwa). Kwakhona basenokuthi utyekelo lwabo alunakuba luphosakele. Noko ke, isibakala sokuba ubani unotyekelo, njengobufanasini, asinto ingaqhelekanga. Abanye basenokuba notyekelo lokusela ngokugqithiseleyo, ukutshaya, ukucaphuka, ukuba neentlobano zesini ngaphandle komtshato, ukusebenzisa imifanekiso engamanyala, okanye ezinye izinto. Nalo ke yimikhwa. Ubufanasini abuhlukanga kangako kwizinto zangaphambili. Noko ke, isibakala sokuba sinotyekelo oluthile—enoba sizalwa okanye akunjalo—asenzi sibe lixhoba nje leemeko. Ubuncinane, ukusa kumlinganiselo othile, sinokukhetha ukuba utyekelo lwethu lusikhokela kangakanani na. Ngaloo ndlela, umntu onotyekelo lobufanasini usenokukhetha ukuba neentlobano zesini kwaphela okanye nomntu omnye okanye abangakumbi. Ngokufanayo, iqabane elitshatileyo linokugqiba enoba liya kuhlala lithembekile na kwiqabane lalo, enoba lihendelwa ekubeni lithandane nomntu ongatshatanga naye. Ngokukwanjalo, umntu othanda ukutya unokuwuthintela umkhwa wakhe wokutya ukusa kumlinganiselo othile, kanye njengokuba intshayi inokugqiba ngomzuzu awufaka ngawo umdiza emlonyeni wayo. Umbuzo ngowokuba ngaba siyaluvumela utyekelo lwethu olungalunganga lulawule ubomi bethu. UPawulos wabhala:
- ( Rom 6:12 ) Ngoko isono masingalawuli emzimbeni wenu onokufa, ukuze nisilulamele ngokwenza iinkanuko zawo.
Uncedo lukaThixo ekoyiseni utyekelo . Umhlathi ongaphambili uthethe ngemikhwa kunye nokuzoyisa. Ukongezelela, kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu ukhotyokiswe zezi zinto. Mhlawumbi uluhlobo lomntu okhe wanengxaki yobufanasini okanye enye into exhomekeke kuwe kodwa akakwazi ukuhlukana nako. Isibakala sokuba unomlutha onjalo eneneni luphawu lokuba ungoweqela elithile labantu. Wena, ngokutsho kweBhayibhile, ungumkhonzi wesono njengoko uYesu watshoyo:
Wawaphendula uYesu wathi, Inene, inene, ndithi kuni, Bonke abenza isono bangamakhoboka esono. 35 Ikhoboka ke alihlali endlwini ngonaphakade; ngunyana ohlala ngonaphakade.
Noko ke, ukuba uva ubunzima ebukhobokeni besono, unokukhululwa. UYesu, owathetha amazwi angaphambili ngobukhoboka besono, ukwangumhlobo waboni ( Mateyu 11:19 ) njengoko iintshaba zakhe zimbizayo. Wamkela aboni, oko kukuthi, abantu abafana nathi.
( Luka 15:1, 2 ) Ke kaloku, babesondela kuye bonke ababuthi berhafu naboni, ukuba bamve. 2 Babekrokra ke abaFarisi nababhali, besithi, Lo wamkela aboni , adle nabo.
Ngoko ke, ukuba ubandezeleka ngenxa yobufanasini okanye ngandlel’ ithile ulikhoboka lesono, unokukhululeka ukuba ubhenela kuYesu Kristu. Uthembise ukukukhulula:
- ( Yohane 8:36 ) Ukuba ke uNyana uthe wanikhulula, noba nikhululekile inene.
Ubufanasini sisono. Eyona nto inzulu ngobufanasini kukuba kusisono yaye abo basisebenzisayo abayi kubudla ilifa ubukumkani bukaThixo. Abantu abaninzi basenokungayithandi, kodwa yabhalwa malunga neminyaka engama-2 000 eyadlulayo, ingaxhomekekanga kuthi. Ezi ndinyana zilandelayo zibhekisa koku:
Anazi na, ukuba abangemalungisa abayi kubudla ilifa ubukumkani bukaThixo? Musani ukulahlekiswa ; 10 namasela, namabawa, namanxila, nabatshabhisi, nabaphangi, abayi kubudla ilifa ubukumkani bukaThixo .
- ( Lev 18:22 ) Uze ungayilali into eyindoda njengokuba kulalwa umfazi:ngamasikizi lawo.
- ( Roma 1:26, 27 ) Ngenxa yoko, uThixo wabanikela ekuthabathekeni okulihlazo ; 27 kwaza kwangokunjalo ke namadoda, ewushiya umsebenzi wenkazana wasemvelweni, avutha ngokukhanukana kwawo; amadoda esenza kumadoda okuziintloni, ezamkelela umbuyekezo wokulahleka kwawo, abemelwe ke nguwo.
- ( 1 Tim 1:9, 10 ) nisazi nje oku, ukuba umthetho lo ungenzelwanga lungisa, uwiselwe abachasi-mthetho nabangevayo, abangahloneli Thixo, nabangaboni, abangengcwele, nabahlambelayo, nababulali booyise, nababulali bawo. oomama, ngababulali, 10 abenzi bombulo, amadoda azenza iinqambi ngoluntu , amakhoboka, amaxoki, amafunga-buxoki, nokuba kukho nto yimbi ichasene nemfundiso ephilileyo;
- ( Yude 1:7 ) Njengokuba iSodom neGomora, nayo imizi engakuyo, yenza kakhulu umbulo ngohlobo olufana nolwazo ezo, imka ilandela nyama yimbi , ibekwe ekuhleni ukuba ibe ngumqondiso, iviswa ubetho lomlilo ongunaphakade.
Umzekelo olandelayo ubonisa indlela ekubaluleke ngayo ukuqonda ukuba ukwenza ubufanasini nenkanuko kusisono. Ukuba ubani akakuqondi oku, akanakuze afumane uxolo noThixo aze abe nesazela esicocekileyo. Ikwavala amathuba akhe okusindiswa:
Ndikhumbula omnye umntu, naye, owayesiya koogqirha rhoqo. weza kuthetha nam. Abantu babemthandazele kakhulu, kodwa akazange alufumane uxolo noThixo. Wonke umntu wathi: “Kholwa nje kuThixo. Kwanele oko.” Kodwa iNkosi yandixelela ngalo mcimbi ndaze ndanobuganga bokubuza isigulana umbuzo owoyikayo: “Ingaba ulifanasini?” Lathi: “Ungazi njani?” Ndaphendula ndathi: “INkosi indibonisile oko.” “Kwenzeka ndisemncinci,” utshilo. Ngaba usivumile na esi sono kuYehova? Xa uthe wasivuma isono sakho, uya kuphila” ndaphendula. “Kodwa ayisosono eso. Sisifo.” Ndathi: “Ngoko andinako ukukunceda.” Ndavalelisa kwisigulana. Kwiiveki ezintandathu kamva weza kum waza wathi: “Ngoku ndeyisekile ukuba kusisono.” Ndaphinda ndathi: “Kubonge kuYehova.” Waphendula wathi: “Andinakuyenza.” Kangangesiqingatha seyure silwela umphefumlo wakhe, wada wazivuma izenzo zakhe kuYehova. Ukususela ngaloo mini ebengumntu owonwabileyo. Zange aphinde aye kwisibhedlele sabagula ngengqondo. Ulonwabo lwalubonakala ebusweni bakhe! Kukho amandla egazini likaYesu Krestu. UThixo usinika ukuzaliseka koMoya wakhe oyiNgcwele ukuze sincede abantu baye enkululekweni. Abantu bakhotyokiswe sisono, yaye isigidimi esintsonkothileyo esingoYesu asinakubakhulula. (14)
Noko ke, abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba ubufanasini ayisosono yaye banokubuthethelela egameni lothando nokunyamezelana. Kodwa kuhle ukubuza ukuba, ukuba iindinyana ezingaphambili zeBhayibhile zichanile yaye ziyinyaniso, ngaba oko akuwuguquli lo mbandela? Ngenxa yoku, iintetho zabantu abakhuthaza kunye nokuxhasa indlela yokuphila yobufanasini ziya kubakhokelela kuphela abanye kude noThixo, ekugwetyweni. Aba bantu, bangayikhathaleliyo imiphefumlo yabantu, bazimisa njengawona magunya makhulu xa besithi iindinyana ezandulelayo zeBhayibhile zibubuxoki. Mhlawumbi oko kwathethwa nguYesu ngabo beza ngabo izilingo kusebenza kwabanjalo (Luka 17:1, 2, Bona kwanoYakobi 3:1, 2) Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, nangona kunjalo, kukuba akukho mntu kufuneka aye esihogweni ngenxa yobufanasini okanye nasiphi na esinye isono. Ukuba siphendukela kuThixo kwaye siguquke, ngoko yonke into ingatshintsha kwaye siya kufumana ukuxolelwa ebomini bethu. Oku kusekelwe koko kwenzeka phantse kwiminyaka engama-2 000 eyadlulayo ngoYesu. IBhayibhile isixelela ngokucacileyo ukuba uThixo wamthuma - uYesu uMesiya - kuba uThixo walithanda ihlabathi kwaye ngamnye wethu:
- ( Yohane 3:16 ) Kuba wenjenje uThixo ukulithanda kwakhe ihlabathi, ude wancama uNyana wakhe okuphela kwamzeleyo , ukuze bonke abakholwayo kuye bangatshabalali, koko babe nobomi obungunaphakade.
IBhayibhile isixelela ukuba xa uKrestu weza emhlabeni, wasisusa isono sehlabathi ngokufa emnqamlezweni. Ngenxa yokuba isono sehlabathi sabekwa phezu kwakhe sasuswa, izono zethu zasuswa. Oku kwenza ukuba uThixo asixolele izono zethu, kwaye asinike ubomi obutsha apha eMhlabeni, ukuba sifuna ukubufumana:
- ( Yohane 1:29 ) Ngengomso uYohane wabona uYesu esiza kuye, wathi, Nantso iMvana kaThixo, esusa isono sehlabathi .
- ( 2 Kor 6:1,2 ) Sisebenzisana naye nje ke, siyaniyala, ukuba ubabalo lukaThixo ningafumane nilwamkele ; 2 Kuba wathi, Ndakuva ngexesha elamkelekileyo, ndakusiza ngomhla wosindiso; yabonani, lingoku ixesha elamkeleke kakuhle; yabonani, ungoku umhla wosindiso.
UKUFUMANA UBOMI. Ukuba umntu umke kuThixo ixesha elide, usenako ukusindiswa kwaye abe nonxibelelwano naye. Kwakhona unokuloyisa utyekelo lwakhe, ukuze angakwazi ukulawula eyona nxalenye iphambili yobomi bakhe. Oku kuquka le miba ilandelayo:
Ukuza kuBawo oseZulwini . Inyathelo lokuqala kuxa sibhenela kuBawo wethu waseZulwini. Kwenzeka kuphela ngoYesu Kristu, njengoko uYesu ngokwakhe wathi:
- ( Yohane 14:6 ) Wathi uYesu kuye, Ndim indlela, ndim inyaniso, ndim ubomi ;
Ngoko, xa wena ngokobuqu uphethukela kuThixo ngoYesu Kristu, unokumxelela ukuba ufuna ukunxulumana Naye yaye ufuna usindiso. ULuka 15 ubalisa ngebali lonyana wolahleko. Unyana wazivuma izono zakhe waza wabuyela kuyise. Ngenxa yoko, uyise waba novelwano ngaye waza wabaleka ukuya kuye. Isimo sengqondo sikaBawo wethu waseZulwini ngakuwe kunye nakuthi sonke esiguqukela kuye siyafana:
- ( Luka 15:18-20 ) Ndiya kusuka ndiye kubawo , ndithi kuye, Bawo, ndonile kuwo amazulu, naphambi kwakho; 19 Andisafanele kubizwa ngokuba ndingunyana wakho; ndénze ndibe njengomnye kubaqeshwa bakho. 20 Wesuka weza kuyise. Ke kaloku, akubon' ukuba usekude lee, uyise wambona, wasikwa yimfesane , wagidima, wawa entanyeni yakhe, wamanga.
Luqonde uthando lukaThixo ! Okulandelayo, qonda ukuba uThixo uyakuthanda. Yena uhleli ekuthanda, naxa ubungamazi. Kubhaliwe kwathiwa:
- ( Roma 5:6-8 ) Kuba uKristu uthe, sakubon’ ukuba sisengama-athalala, wabafela ngexesha elimisiweyo abangahloneli Thixo. 7 Kuba kungangenkankulu ukuthi ubani afele ilungisa; kuba uthi mhlawumbi ubani abe nobuganga bokumfela olungileyo; 8 ke yena uThixo uqondakalisa okwakhe ukusithanda ngokuthi, sakubon' ukuba sisengaboni, uKristu asifele .
Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba oku kuyasebenza nakwixesha langoku ukuba uguqukele kuThixo. Uthando lukaThixo aluxhomekekanga kwindlela ubomi bakho obuphumelele ngayo okanye ukuba usoyise kangakanani isono, luthando olusisigxina. Nantsi incwadi kaPawulos eya kwabaseRoma isithi ngayo:
( Roma 8:35, 39 ) Ngubani na oya kusahlula eluthandweni lukaKristu . . . 39 nabuphakamo, nabunzulu, nasinye isidalwa esisimbi, asiyi kuba nako ukusahlula thina eluthandweni lukaThixo , olukuye uKristu Yesu, iNkosi yethu.
Thembela ! Into yesithathu ebalulekileyo kukuthembela ngamandla kaThixo ebomini bakho. Oku kusekelwe kwinto yokuba umiliselwe kuKristu (Yohane 15:5). Xa uhendwa ( kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kwenzeka! ), unokujonga kuKristu kwaye ulindele ukuba enze into engenakwenzeka kuwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo awuyi kufezeka ngokuqhwanyaza kweliso, kodwa unokuthembela kuncedo lwakhe ebomini bakho:
- ( Fil 1:6 ) ndikholose ngayo le nto, yokuba lowo wawuqalayo ngaphakathi kwenu umsebenzi olungileyo, wowufeza, ide ibe yimini kaYesu Kristu.
Ngoko ke, ukuba unesihendo okanye utyekelo lobufanasini, khumbula ukuba unokuyoyisa ngendlela efanayo ukuba unokuwoyisa umsindo, ukugxeka, ukusela utywala, kunye nezinye izono: ngamandla kaYesu Krestu. Oku kwakuqhelekile kwibandla lokuqala yaye ngokuqinisekileyo sinokukulindela ngoku. Kufuneka ujike kuphela kuThixo kwaye ulinde ummangaliso wakhe ukuba wenzeke ebomini bakho:
- ( Tito 3:3-5 ) Kuba nathi sasikhe saba zizidenge, singathobeli, sikhohliswa, sikhonza iinkanuko neziyolo ezahlukahlukeneyo, siphila ebubini nomona, sinentiyo, sithiyayo . 4 Kwathi ke emva koko, kwabonakala ububele nothando lukaThixo, uMsindisi wethu, kubantu; 5 kungengamisebenzi esebulungiseni esayenzayo thina, kungokwenceba yakhe, wasisindisa ngentlambululo yokuzalwa ngokutsha, nangokuhlaziya koMoya oyiNgcwele;
References:
1. Jerry Arterburn: Kun kulissit kaatuvat (How Will I Tell My Mother), p.131 2. Same, p. 73 3. Andrew Comiskey: Täyteen miehuuteen ja koko naiseksi (Pursuing Sexual Wholeness), p. 131 4. Leanne Payne: Särkynyt minäkuva (The Broken Image), p. 46 5. Andrew Comiskey: Täyteen miehuuteen ja koko naiseksi (Pursuing Sexual Wholeness), p. 139,140 6. Leanne Payne: Särkynyt minäkuva (The Broken Image), p. 84, 85 7. Jerry Arterburn: Kun kulissit kaatuvat (How Will I Tell My Mother), p. 39,40 8. Carlos Annacondia: Kuuntele minua Saatana! (Listen to me, satan!), p. 122 9. Leanne Payne: Särkynyt minäkuva (The Broken Image), p.30 10. Roland Werner: Toisenlainen rakkaus (Homosexualität – ein Schicksal?), p.48 11. Same, p.50,51 12. Näky-magazine 4 / 2008, p. 10-12 13. Andrew Comiskey: Täyteen mieheyteen ja koko naiseksi (Pursuing Sexual Wholeness), p. 171,172 14. Michael Harry: Te saatte voiman, p. 75
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Jesus is the way, the truth and the life
Grap to eternal life!
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Other Google Translate machine translations:
Izigidi zeminyaka / iidinosaur /
ngendaleko yabantu? |
